Breaking Free from 'Log Kya Kahenge': Overcoming Societal Pressure to Achieve Personal and Professional Goals
As I sit here, reflecting on my own journey, I'm reminded of the countless times I've heard the phrase "Log Kya Kahenge" - a constant reminder of the societal pressure that can stifle our dreams and ambitions. Growing up in a joint family system in Pakistan, I've seen firsthand how the fear of what others might think can hold us back from pursuing our passions. My friend, Ayesha, a talented entrepreneur, once confided in me about how her family's disapproval of her business venture made her question her own abilities. She was expected to prioritize her role as a wife and mother over her career aspirations, and the weight of that expectation was suffocating.
The reality is, many of us have been conditioned to prioritize the opinions of others over our own desires. We're taught to be obedient, to conform to societal norms, and to avoid controversy at all costs. But what happens when this pressure becomes too much to bear? When the fear of what others might think holds us back from pursuing our goals and dreams? It's time for a reality check: you don't need everyone's approval to succeed. You need a plan, a support system, and a willingness to take risks.
Understanding the Root of the Problem
The joint family system, although well-intentioned, can sometimes perpetuate the idea that individual desires and aspirations should be sacrificed for the sake of family harmony. The pressure to conform to traditional roles and expectations can be overwhelming, especially for women. Inflation, load shedding, and the constant struggle to make ends meet can also take a toll on our mental and emotional well-being, making it even more challenging to pursue our passions.
Breaking Free from the Pressure
So, how can we break free from the societal pressure that's holding us back? Here are some actionable steps to help you get started:
Set Clear Goals
Identify what you want to achieve, and write it down. Make your goals specific, measurable, and attainable. For example, if you want to start your own business, define what that business will look like, what products or services you'll offer, and what your target market is.
Build a Support Network
Surround yourself with people who believe in you and your abilities. This could be a network of like-minded women, a mentor, or a supportive family member. Having a solid support system can help you stay motivated and focused on your goals.
Develop a Growth Mindset
Believe that you have the power to learn and grow. Don't be afraid to take risks and step out of your comfort zone. Remember, every failure is an opportunity to learn and improve.
Meet Zara, a 30-year-old marketing professional from Lahore. Zara had always dreamed of starting her own business, but her family was skeptical. They wanted her to focus on her marriage and raising a family, not on pursuing a "risky" career in entrepreneurship. But Zara was determined. She started small, using her savings to launch a social media marketing business from home. She worked tirelessly, often for 12 hours a day, to build her client base and establish herself as a credible entrepreneur. Today, Zara's business is thriving, and she's become a role model for many young women in Pakistan.
Overcoming the Fear of Failure
One of the biggest obstacles that holds us back from pursuing our goals is the fear of failure. What if we fail? What if we're not good enough? What if others judge us? But here's the thing: failure is not the end of the world. In fact, it's often a stepping stone to success. Every successful person has experienced failure at some point in their journey.
💡 Quick Win: Take the First Step Today
So, what's holding you back from pursuing your goals? Is it the fear of failure, the pressure from others, or something else? Whatever it is, I want you to take the first step today. Whether it's researching a new business idea, updating your resume, or simply having a conversation with a mentor, take action. Don't let the fear of what others might think hold you back from achieving your dreams. You have the power to create the life you want, and it starts with taking that first step.
As you embark on this journey, remember that you're not alone. There are countless women in Pakistan and around the world who are facing similar challenges and overcoming them. You can do the same. So, go ahead, take a deep breath, and start working towards your goals. The world is waiting for you, and it's time to show them what you're capable of.